If you want to have thick skin, you should not focus on apathy and ignoring insults and criticism that comes your way. Instead, you should focus on rationalizing your own philosophy to realize the insults and criticism only have a couple of options.
When being insulted or criticized, you have limited ways to react, but being hurt is rarely one of them. Each insult or criticism is only one of two things:
1. The insult is accurate:
You can decide to accept this criticism about yourself, or you can try to change it. If it is something that cannot be changed, it is your flaw to take insult about something you should have accepted long ago.
2. If the insult is inaccurate:
You don’t need to feel a thing, except to determine why people are having this perception of you.
The only time to be hurt is if it is someone you love only using the insult to attempt to hurt you. In this case, the insult itself shouldn’t hurt, but the intent of the person may. When this happens, you should use this as a signal that you need to have a heart to heart with that person.
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